Last weekend we went and looked at more venues. I've also been vetting online and by phone to help narrow it and after this week the stress of planning has kicked in.
I'm going to be honest, we are broke people. We both work full time jobs and we don't live outside our means. Most months are paycheck to paycheck and we paying for this wedding on our own.
We can only afford 5k realistically.
We are thinking outdoors because I love the outdoors and it's suppose to be cheaper (not in Jacksonville, FL apparently). We are also trying to find a place handicap accessible because will we have more than one family member in a wheelchair.
Wheelchair accessibility....(Let me start here)
Just because a place advertises wheelchair accessibility does not mean they are able to handle more than 2 people in a wheelchair or that all the areas they will offer are accessible. And in smaller venues that includes them not having enough parking for handicap.
I've removed two places off my "venue comparison" chart and didn't even bother to schedule a tour with another four because of them not being "fully" handicap accessible.
Again this is MY wedding and these people are on my "must have" guest list so I am not willing to compromised on this. It just means those venues are not right for us.
Availability
Some places are already booked out 24 months in advance! Just wow!
Venues in General
If any venue uses the word "only starts"....RUN! Get ready for those hidden fees and everything they DON'T supply.
Budgets and Comments
When you are on a tight budget corners will need to cut...I hate that sentence. If you are on a tight budget you already know there are some things you simply will not be able to do. People please do not say these words to stressed out brides. It's just plain cruel. Ask instead "What are your must haves...what are you willing to do without...what have you looked at".
In the same respect, brides, be ready to accept the idea of changes when you're on a small budget.
Recently I shared my frustrations on another app and while several people offered suggestions and pats on the back I did get a few people that actually wrote "If you can't afford at least 10k, elope". At first I was angry...I was ready to comment blasting her but than I took a moment and just sighed (vented to a friend) and ignored her. I have responded to every comment on that thread but those I ignored.
I was raised if you don't have anything nice to say than keep your mouth shut.
Every person can afford different levels of things. Not everyone will be able to afford 5K for their wedding. All I can say is make plans, expect changes, and be ready for the harder days.
In closing
Today I am not in a positive mood about wedding planning and I know that's okay. I know it's the stress. It's okay to have days where you just need to break or vent. You are planning a very important day and you will put pressure on yourself to make it perfect but step back on days when you feel overwhelmed. Do something for you (read a book, work on a craft project, go shopping, hit the gym). Do something that has nothing at all to do with the wedding. Don't look at your planner, charts, notes. Put them in the closet if you have to!
In the end this day is your day and you will find a way to make it perfect for you...Just might take time.
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