How can I do this?! Part 4

 Well at this point your probably starting to wonder 'What did I sign up for?'. You hear people say it all the time 'it's your day'. While it's true you are human, and if you're close with family and friends, than you know there are pressures and opinions about what they think you should do. I will say this time and time again...STEP BACK!

Please do not wait until you are emotionally and mentally exhausted before doing so. Yes, it's your day but if you want a certain person to attend you will try and maneuver things to make it happen. If you have people with known food allergies: you try and work around them and have options. Just means that you're a caring human but don't lose sight into what you want. And at some point put your foot down.

Okay my next rant...Save the Dates, Dresses and Decor!

DECOR:

This falls under wedding vision. Do you see yourself carrying roses, lilies, etc? Is you venue grass and trees? Marble and crystal? Do you want to drape everything in gauzy fabric? Maybe an eclectic mix of things? 

There is no wrong or right answer. Truthfully, your ideas might even change a few times.

You're already on the net...look up bride groups, pintrest, etc. If you're not sure what you want see what others have done before and go from there.

DRESSES

Read some of my earlier blog posts. Dress shop around. If you do it early don't buy at first but get an idea what you like. I hear it from a lot of bride's that liked a dress (and the price) so they jump and months down the road their vision has changed and they have 'dress regret'. To avoid this condition I recommend shop around and buy around 4 months out or when it goes on sale. Remember this bridal gowns are NOT returnable or exchangeable (even most online vendors).

Now that I've shake off the vegetables thrown by upset dress sellers.

Find out style, length, and veil or no veil before looking. Go to an actual bridal shop and get your measurement taken. Research the designers. EVERY designer has a different idea what makes a size 2 or size 24. 

Do NOT get discourage if you have to go up a few sizes. It is not you.

SAVE THE DATES

To do or not to do.

Pros: It's a physical constant reminder that there is a wedding coming and invitations are to follow (helpful when your planning a year or more out).

Cons: People might toss them if it's not something the stick on their fridge. Also, as always...the cost.

In the end: We decided to not too. We decided to do everything digitally to save on cost and we do have a few people that declined when we sent out actual invites out because they forgot about the date of the wedding when planning things in their own life but that's 2 people verses my entire guest list and I understood the risk.